I am enjoying reading the discussion and perspectives going back and forth. The lines become blurrier and blurrier when we take away the life/death aspect. Lying - does your 89 year old aunt really look good? Obeying traffic laws - never goes 3 over the speed limit even to pass? Following procedures at work - just go in a hallway when the person you are walking with swipes her badge? Utilitarian prevails in nearly all the cases except the really biggies. Hence - 10 commandments being deontological. The rest is up for negotiation.
There is also a cultural aspect involved. There is a story - perhaps urban myth - of a German army storeroom clerk who would not hand out winter weather gear to troops nearby because he did not have the proper authorization. The troops froze to death with coats on racks mere meters away. The deontological nature of his culture - follow der rhules! - made him do something unthinkable nearly everywhere else in the world. The quality, morality, rightness, etc of the rules or procedures is never under question so long as it comes from the perceived proper authority.